These are common sense measures that any reasonable parent should be taking with their children. If you are not taking these steps then you are a failure as a parent.
Good luck getting a job to pay for your own phone. Don't expect me to pay for your phone if I don't look at it. Don't expect me to pay for your internet access if I don't have any oversight to what you are doing on the web. I have a very trusting relationship with my children. As a reasonable parent I set the standards, boundaries, and expectations for their behavior. If I had a child who was a constant discipline problem then I certainly would not allow them to go out & do what they pleased. Don't come home without good grades - if this happens then you are grounded until the grades improve. There are curfews that you are expected home by. I will not apologize for raising my children properly so they are productive members of society. Fortunately most decent parents have the exact same views as myself. It is not a question of being a 'dictator and spy' -- it is a matter of being a responsible parent. Unfortunately Trayvon did not have responsible parents.
Hopefully your kids don't share any of your DNA, which from what you've told us is a possibility. Don't get angry I'm just thinking of the kids.
Wow, of all the stupid comments you have ever made (and there have been too many to count) this is, by far, the most asinine. A good parent is not a friend to his/her kid. A good parent, is a parent. That means bringing up your child in a way that you believe will protect them in the long run. Children haven't earned the right to be "on their own", and as such, have to follow certain rules until trust is earned. My father would "toss my room" unannounced on occasions, just like a drill sergeant. We didn't have the internet and cell phones, but no where was there privacy in my room. I remember going pale when he yanked a playboy from my closet (under my shoe box) and looked at it for a moment. "This doesn't bother me, boy." he said as he tossed it back in the closet. He was looking for drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, etc. He never found any. Eventually, he stopped ransacking my room because he came to me one day and said "I'm proud of you, son. You've earned my trust." Of course, after that I knew it was safe to hide shit But I never had drugs or anything illegal. He raised me right. My friend is going through this dilemma right now, as he let his 15 year old daughter have her own privacy on her cell phone. That is, until he found out that she had been sending nude texts to her boyfriend. You cannot give a child the right to police themselves until they have shown they are a responsible adult. I maintain, you, are a fucking idiot.
I understand your fears but this is not the way to justify your overbearing parenting methods. If you are so sure of your "skills", you wouldn't feel the need to declare them on a trading site. Seriously now, trying to reduce parenting to a few paragraphs is stupidity. I just hope none of your kids "disappoint" you at some point because you sound like the kind of parent that will disown them or blame them for being human.
It sounds like you must have been a "disappointment" to your parents on many, many occasions. I feel sorry for them.
In no way are my parenting methods overbearing. They are RESPONSIBLE PARENTING methods. They are the methods used universally by all decent parents to raise children who are productive citizens. I find it incredible that you have objections to raising children in a manner that aligns with suggestions made from child rearing experts -- including the need in the modern era to keep on top of your children's internet & cell phone activities. That you find this is somehow wrong or stupid says a lot about you... and not in a good way.