I always wanted a woman that would put the kids first, better, that we both put our kids first. We already had our fun, now it is time to take care of the consequences. Women only enjoy sex when they feel sexy. Unfortunately many women no longer feel sexy after the baby causes them to no longer look like the models in the magazines. And it doesn't help if everytime a younger woman walks by she sees you turn your head.
IDK, maybe some sad (or successful) stories like this: The following is a true story and a possible outcome for those young men who father children in a Western Nation. Rather than âdonât marry,â the author is advocating âdonât marry, and donât father.â Those who do are one female whim away from emotional ruin and slavery. The man who wrote the article is now in his mid forties. If you want to offer some solutions or help to him, please do so. A life not worth living It has been seven years since my wife move 500 miles away with my almost three year old son one day when I was at work; and my 500 mile trips to try to reconcile our family eventually proved futile. Our marriage lasted almost ten years. We waited seven years to have our first child. Our son was completely planned, welcomed and cherished. I was a doting and loving father and I spent every day and weekend with my son. After the divorce, the courts allowed me to see my son three weekends per month from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM. That is only 6.66% of the total time available in the month. I was allowed one phone call per week. The courts allowed his mother to keep him 500 miles away; I had to travel 500 miles to see him. I was ordered to pay his mother $1500 per month. No consideration was taken for my travel expenses. Most importantly, no consideration was given for my sonâs rights to have his father in his life the same amount of time as before. Not three weekends per month only in the daytime, but every day and night and weekend. I was a very affectionate, loving and responsible father and absolutely doted over my son. I was stripped of my fathership and made a visitor in his life. He was stripped of his father. Within two months my son behaved like a stranger to me. Within four months he was actively hostile towards me. After traveling 500 miles to see him, his mother would not show up with him. His mother was alienating him from me. Within seven months I lost my job. After being a victim of a terrible wife and a corrupt court system, I realized the situation was hopeless; I walked away. Even though she destroyed most of the relationship between my son and I, I am the one being blamed for abandonment. I thought I could begin a new life; but seven years later the pain remains. My pain over missing my son; the pain over how my son must feel; the pain over the disadvantages that my son has. Pain over a career that has been trashed. Pain over huge child support debts that can never be repaid. Pain over a life where I will never be able to have any sort of financial security or retirement. Pain over the fact that I will never know my grandchildren. Pain over excruciating loneliness. The worst times are weekends and holidays. Weekends and holidays were mine and my sonâs best times together. When I see fathers with sons I feel an overwhelming sadness: a sadness of what has been lost; what is not; and what could have been. Also I am permanently changed. No amount of therapy, psychotropic drugs, or a new woman and child can remove the hollowness inside me. I notice the effect when I am around people. I used to be happy and fulfilled; now I am empty and depressed, and people notice it and they donât want to be around me. It is impossible for me to smile and I get no pleasure from anything; not even eating. I have no present and no future. Am I a loser? I was an example of someone who raised themselves from nothing to something though hard work. I put myself through college; earned a scholarship, and worked many crappy jobs before I finally landed a good one. Through thrift, I managed to save a tidy nest egg. I never had any problems with the law. But because my wife became unhappily married, I have been criminalized, even though I tried to keep the marriage together. Now I donât have a car, I donât have a drivers license, I donât have a girl friend, and I live in a small and shitty room. I earn a fifth of what I earned before. I have a very difficult time holding a job because of depression. I am a Christian; so I am afraid of committing suicide. Nevertheless, I often research suicide to see if there is some justification for it; some way to do it, without going to hell. I want out of my life; I would not want to wish my life on my worst enemy. It is a life that is not worth living. I pray every day for some guidance and purpose of what I am supposed to do; I donât get any answers. Where did I go wrong? Was it the wrong choice of a woman? My wife was very religious (mormon) and a virgin when we met. She never smoked a cigarette or drank alcohol in her life. She was the most family-oriented person I had ever met. I would never have thought she would have chosen divorce. And if she chose divorce, I would have thought she would have wanted a father in her sonâs life. But she changed. Why did she change? I donât know but I think because of cultural influences. Why do I write this? For pity? No. I write this to give young men an idea of what they are facing when they father children in the USA or any other country that imitates the American court system. When the divorce happens, and it is more likely to happen then not, you will be destroyed emotionally and financially. Your children will suffer. The more responsible, the more loving, the more family-oriented you are, the more you will be destroyed. Marriage and family is sacred and the greatest gift a man can have. Unfortunately, in the USA, marriage and family have been perverted beyond repair. For young men, the worst thing you could do is to have children in the USA. For parents of boys, the worst thing you could do is to pressure your sons into having children in the USA. Donât think it cannot happen to you or your sons. Is there a solution? Yes. Emigration. Make your money in the states and emigrate out when you are financially able. Then marry and have children in a family-friendly nation and a nation with fairer divorce laws. This is a solution that wonât completely remove the risk of divorce; but will reduce it. As a man in the USA you have nothing to look forward to. Only the ignorant or the masochistic would think of fathering children there. In the USA fathers are like tightrope walkers without netting. Donât do it. You have been warned by someone wandering in hell who lives a life not worth living. Information and statistics: States get matching funds from the federal government for every support order they issue; therefore there is an built-in economic incentive against family reconciliation and against shared custody and an economic incentive for sole physical custody. Presumption of guilt is on the man. If the woman makes any type of emotional or physical abuse claim, the man will be removed from his home and children. Nine out of ten times the children are given to the woman, no matter how good the man is. If you fall behind in child support $2500, your passport is denied. If you fall behind in child support $2500, you drivers license is revoked. If you are behind and miss payments, you can go to jail for contempt of court. If you have a history of falling behind on payments, you can be placed in prison. Because you are in jail does not mean child support payments stop; on the contrary, child support payments continue and arrears continue to build. In many states, interest is added to arrears at the rate of 10 percent per year. If you lose your job and get a lesser paying job, the child support agencies will do their best to try to keep the payments the same. Employers frown on wage garnishment; it is more work for them and they are less likely to hire a divorced man and more likely to exploit one because they know he is desperate. As your children are stripped away from you and the relationship severed, you will be accused of abandoning your children. If you have arrears, a child support lien will be placed on your credit report which comes up on background checks rendering you much less employable. Any type of depression or despondency is used against the man to further remove him from his children, causing yet more depression and despondency. Non-custodial parents (men) are around three times as likely to commit suicide then the rest of the male population, and in the USA the general male population is around five times more likely to commit suicide then females. Men are not entitled to a lawyer in a failure to pay child support court hearing. 50,000 men are in jail or prison every day for child support arrears. Ever wonder why there are so many homeless men? Do your own street interviews. Ask random homeless men if they ever went through a divorce or the child support system. A man with children in the USA is like a tightrope walker without netting: the risk-reward profile is life or death.
Or maybe some perspective from old farts like this. I'm still waiting though: I am going to explain why so many women come on men boards like this and are angered; sickened; and appalled at the men and what they have to say. I have lived through the entire modern feminist movement. I was there when the most pampered and spoiled group of humans ever to live on this planet started whining how they were exploited and subjugated. Men were not allowed to enter the debate on all the social changes and laws passed to suit the dearies. Nope, it was supposed to be womanÂfs issues, no male opinions wanted, though obviously those changes affected men as well. In the 70ÂÅs, all important articles written about men were written by Dr. Joyce Brothers. Later, even today, the feminists do not think men should be heard, as their lives are being destroyed by feminist laws. If men do try to speak out, they are forced out of their careers, ala Larry Summers. Feminists do anything they can to stop all male participation in important decisions made about society and marriage and divorce. As a result of this exclusion of men from the debate, women very quickly became totally uninformed as to what men were thinking about the changes they made. If, and I emphasize the conditional, women were intelligent, they would want to know what men were thinking. They were and are not and they didnÂft want to know. They assumed that men were content with the changes, because men werenÂft openly complaining, at least most men werenÂft. And, men like me who did speak up were dismissed as stark raving lunatics. We could draw a hypothetical comparison to an antebellum slave owner. He might call his slaves together, and ask them if they are happy. The slaves know if they complain, they will be beaten near unto death. So, when the Colonel asks them if they are happy, they smile, and say, ÂgOh, yes, MassaÂf, weÂfs very very happy.Âh So, women drifted farther and farther from any intelligent understanding of what AM thought and felt. More and more men became alienated from the narcissistic smart-alecky AW. Who of course had no clue at all. A famous general once said, ÂgKeep your friends close; your enemies even closer.Âh This is what he was talking about. Know what those people who can destroy you are thinking. Most AW have had no clue for 45 years what men were thinking. So, year after year, lulled into somnambulism by the failure to listen to men, they have constantly increased misandrist laws which destroy men and alienate them from society and from women. The big backlash dates back to the Lorena Bobbitt crime. I knew married men who had thought I was a nutcase for speaking out against the womenÂfs movement who saw the light when their own wives made wiener jokes, and mocked their own husbands. I met my first vocal young marriage striker in 1995. In that nearly 20 years, women have deteriorated much faster than ever. Oh, sure, they sit around telling each other what wonderful, battered dearies they are. But, very few women today in the US are worth two cents. The several men I have convinced to visit other countries, 100%, no longer live in the USA. Yet, as I have described, refusing to listen to men, they have no clue. They imagine they are perfect in every way, and any man who does not agree is insane. Two weeks ago, a man I know flew from the Middle East to the US, many hours over the North Pole. He chatted with a Hungarian stewardess, who told him, ÂgAmerican women are monsters! Why do American men put up with them?Âh So, it is not just men who find you to be insane. You women who come on here and call the men here names, simply have no clue what your true nature is, because you have always lived under feminism, and think you are both normal and perfect in every way, even the 300 pounders. You are angry at us, because in your selfish narcissistic lives, you had no idea millions of AM think like this. Enjoy. It is going to get much worse.
well, get use to it. Women are now more than 51% of the population and they run for office and they vote. The laws will change, the government will change. The government will be more like your loving mother than your stern father the way it was in the past.
Or how about some stories of assaults: There were a few details I neglected to mention in my initial post that I would like to write about now. My ex-wife and I had a beautiful 4700 sq ft home on 4 acres just outside a major metropolitan city in Canada (not Montreal). As stated in my post we had horses on the acreage which I purchased for her as it was her wish, all tack and equipment as well. From the day they arrived to the day they left she never lifted a finger to groom, feed or care for them, not even a bucket of oats. And when I asked her to assist her reply was, âyou bought the damn things, you care for themâ. Now one day she and I began an argument about something trivial. We had a large dinning room which opened up into a great room. As I was walking by the dining room table I accidently knocked over her coffee cup which broke on the floor. I was about 30ft away when I felt a sharp pain in my back and I heard a heavy clunk on the floor just behind me. I looked down to see an 8 inch pair of metal scissors on the floor. I put my hand on my back where I felt the pain then pulling it back so I could see my hand. It was full of blood. She had thrown a pair metal scissors at me sticking point first just below my trapezoid muscle. I looked at her and said âtell me you didnât just throw those at meâ. She smiled at me and walked upstairs. Now I told a few people about this and I found that the men I spoke with said âcharge herâ and the woman said âwhat did you do to her to make her do thatâ. Just goes to show you how MOST western woman think its ok to assault a man/husband with a weapon as long as she has a reason. I have had a few girlfriends prior to being married and of the 5 or so woman I cared about in my life all 5 have physically assaulted me. Whether it be a punch or slap in the face, destroying my belongings etc⦠can recall one incident vividly, I had just finished playing at a club in Montreal (I was a singer/frontman with a local band), I was about 26 years of age at the time. I was dating a now doctor, when I came through the door (5am) she started at me. âWell, I finished at 2:30 and had to tear down etcâ¦â Her verbal assault was relentless; I walked into the closet and began packing, after all why should I take that. She held me in the closet punching, slapping and scratching my face until I HAD to push her aside. Now since I was a very young boy my father told me to NEVER touch a woman in anger, words I have lived by. The police showed up as the neighbours called them. When the police showed up guess who was thrown against the wall and handcuffed? Even though my face was bleeding, they arrested me without a single question as to what happened. Now Montreal police are not known for being gentle as a matter of fact they are probably best know for the opposite. I spend the next 4 hrs in jail even though she told them minutes after being handcuffed that I did not lay a hand on her andâ¦â¦they did not charge her. Mind you this was almost 25 years ago but still shows you where society was/is. Nothing has changed, woman still assault men as though we deserve it, just because we are men and we can take it. It is VERY hard to look at a western woman with those beliefs, the infidelity justifications and the monetary rewards for bad behaviour and say âI will give it another tryâ. I would be an absolute fool. As the expression goes, âfool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on meâ. Gentlemen, I would like you to think back and count how many times you have been assaulted by a girlfriend or wife. The law defines assaults as the following âan unlawful physical attack upon another; an attempt or offer to do violence to another, with or without battery, as by holding a stone or club in a threatening mannerâ. I wonder how many ladies reading this have assaulted a BF or husband and think nothing of it to this very day. What it does to his self-esteem, do you even care? Do you care that men are assaulted daily on TV by their spouses/GF/partners and it is portrayed as funny. It is beyond pathetic and sick; it has become the moral fibre of western woman. It is only a matter of time until our society falls; we have no defined roles in relationships anymore. How can something be successful if you do not know what you are supposed to do? Loving, respecting, sharing is not enough. Marriage should be viewed as all responsibilities in life shared by two people. Why is it that 80% of marital breakups are initiated by western woman? MOST western women are incapable of loving another because she has lost herself hence does not love herself. Women are not slaves if they pick up a dish towel or do a load of laundry. Why are menâs roles/responsibilities defined, ie changing the oil in the car, taking out the garbage, mowing the lawn but western womenâs are not? Why the hell would I or any other man for that matter, engage himself in a system of dishonesty, corruption and inequality? What sane man would subject himself to such insurmountable odds? Donât do it boys, chances are VERY high that no matter what you do, she (the western woman) will tear it down!
Or This: The purposes of my comments are to educate men to some facts about todayâs western women and maybe, just maybe, some women will take heed of what MANY men are discussing today. Gents todayâs western woman will literally suck the life from you so get ready, men young and old listen up; if you are pondering marriage or living with a woman better give these FACTS some thought. ⢠Did you know that should your marriage/relationship break up and its 50/50 if youâre lucky, that it will, she will 80% of the time be the one to initiate it? ⢠You are going to spend $5,000-$10,000 on a ring or youâre considered cheap! ⢠You will spend your next 3 years salary on HER ideal wedding! ⢠Abuse is a 50/50 statistic, in other words she is just as likely as a man to abuse you but the difference is you are suppose to take it and she is FAR more likely to use a weapon! ⢠Western women today are just as likely to have extra marital affairs as men! And should this happen it is FAR more likely that it is you, the man, that will pay for her indiscretions. She is 75% more likely to keep the children, house and furniture and the MAN will continue to make the mortgage payments while she continues life as if nothing happened! If the man fools around he still pays the price. The courts have become so slanted that western men are avoiding marriage in droves! ⢠It takes a man an average of 5 years to recover financially and emotionally from a divorce where a woman is a matter of months. ⢠Your ex can, at a whim, deny visitation of your children even though you have been paying ¾ of your income to her without missing a payment and there is NOTHING you can do! ⢠There is ONE man EVERY day that commits suicide in Canada because divorce devastates him financially and emotionally. I am 6â1â and weighed 220 lbs, my first marriage I lost 60 lbs in 3 months because of the stress. My second I lost 50. ⢠Sex becomes a reward/punishment tool that women exercise at every possible turn. I have been married twice, both exâs had affairs, I spent MILLIONS of dollars trying to keep them happy but in the end it was for not. I am well educated, good looking; have many talents, keeping a woman happy I thought would be feasible. Not a western woman, through my experience and discussions with MANY other men, a western woman is virtually impossible to please. She wants to be taken care of but cares for nothing but herself, she wants her girls night out but lookout if you go out with the boys, she wants you to watch her romance movies with her (training on how a man should behave) but forget about watching a hockey or football game, ask her if she would mind buying you a $10,000 watch or a new sports car after all thatâs the equivalent of what you are going to spend on her ring and the wedding. And if you think itâs because you make more money than her that she will not buy you these things, think again. There are more women in middle & upper management today than there are men; they are better educated than men. There are FAR more women in university than men. I am close to 50 now, I workout and I still look pretty good, I have girls in their early 30s interested (helps to be a singer) however I am FAR more selective of who I date. So men of all ages DO NOT MARRY!!!!!!!!!! And if you do, good luck because thatâs all you have is luck. Todayâs western woman is fickle, spoiled, lazy and has a DEEP sense of entitlement! Look at the commercials and TV shows, men are always portrayed as stupid klutzes that need a woman around to straighten him out. Women on TV can indiscriminately smash a man with her fist or any weapon in reach and itâs funny. She can burn or throw his cloths out the window in a commercial and its justified even funny. And let me tell you, women buy into whatâs on TV far more than men do! To them its reality! Gents, never date, only sleep with woman that claim their marriage broke up because âit just didnât work outâ. Thatâs code for âhe didnât do what I told himâ! Men are portrayed as useless, without feeling entities to be dumped upon. So gentlemen as you read this, is that what you think of yourself? Western woman as you read this you are saying to yourself, âheâs just bitter cause she left himâ. Nope I am bitter because I spent 30 years and $2,000,000 doing all I could trying to please 2 women. I bought them horses, new cars, watched those ridiculous romance movies, distanced my good friends and family and I am left with very little, having to start all over again while the 2 of them have homes paid for! And society ignores men as if they are garbage. Girls the movies are not real; TV is not reality and if you want men to behave like the ACTORS in a FICTIONAL romance then you better behave like a porn star in the bedroom! I no longer believe western woman are capable of love. There may be VERY rare cases where this is not true but gentlemen; would you bet all you have and all youâre going to have on odds that are 95% against you? Men in closing DO NOT MARRY A WESTERN WOMAN! It will more than likely be the BIGGEST mistake of your life! You have a VERY slim chance of being successful and it is almost entirely up to her whether or not your relationship will succeed!
"As noted above, after the children are in school, the wife may enjoy a life of leisure and relaxation that is afforded to her by her manâs hard work." if you are a good trader you work half the day and you bone these married women in the afternoon while hubby is slaving at work.